1.1.4 #Backstories - We all have them.

 Remember just like you, everyone one has had their own life #experiences that created their own #unique backstory.

 A challenging customer, neighbour, relative? 

Be #aware. Their behaviour belongs to them as yours belongs to you. 

Why they try to involve you in their drama may have absolutely nothing to do with you! 

You can’t be expected to know what their ‘back story’ is, but you can #trust that just like you, everyone has one. 

In the short term; maybe their much loved pet just died, their partner left them or recently they have got wedged into a cycle of #boredom, frustration and then resentment.

In the longer term; they may feel #emotionally ‘painted into a corner’ by a relationship, or more simply they’re just struggling to cope and are still awaiting the realisations that will give them the #wisdom and #perspective they need. 

You aren’t here to fix anyone, nor to be drawn into a conflict just so they can vent themselves upon you. 

Martyrs don’t get extra points from Upstairs so why do it? 

Have #compassion, but use your #awareness to not need to ‘understand’ or ‘fix’. 

Remember, it’s the height of arrogance to think you know what is best for another adult, even when they seem to be self-destructing. You haven’t lived through their back story, nor do you have their #unique personal perspective. They’ve arrived at this point through their own angle of approach and only they can change the trajectory that their pathway is aiming towards. 

You ALWAYS have a choice;

Accept, Allow and Step Back. 

Accept, Allow, Offer Help when you feel able to, Then Step Back. 

Have #patience with them to choose whatever they choose, when they feel able to do so. 

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